I get it. It’s hard to make that choice to decide what’s best for you and your commitment to each other, especially if it doesn’t align with a lot of peoples’ expectations. And that’s NOT your fault. It’s hard to be unapologetically you when society may tell you to do something different.
It isn’t selfish to want a day that reflects you and your partner to the core. It may be one of the most healthy ways to start your new life together.
Spending your days planning for a wedding that pleases everyone won’t magically mend fences or destroy friendships (ask me how I know). You have every right to have whatever kind of wedding day you want.